Monday, June 29, 2009

Picture of the Week.....and venting

This is a Lily from my flowerbed. I have redone them this year- I will post pictures later.
This week is another busy week. We are getting ready to have a 4th party & anniversary party on Saturday. B & I will have been married 10 years on the 30th of July. We thought we would get together with a few family & friends to celebrate. Lots of cleaning to do- so sorry if I skip a few days this week.

Do have a story I need to vent.....
Went to the grocery store last Friday. Had not been in 2 1/2 weeks- due to busy schedule. So needless to say I was there for and hour and had two buggy's full when I left. For some odd reason C decided to scream and act like a fool the whole time. We got our usual 'free' cookie from the bakery- then they ate every animal cracker I had left this side of the Mississippi.
I do need to back up he may have been fussy due; to the night before he did fall and bit a hole yes, a HOLE in his bottom lip and chin. No Dr. visit because it stopped bleeding quickly and he did not cry that much. Plus I did not feel like an ER visit since B was gone. He did it by falling from the dining room table chair...trying to get on the table.
OK back to the store. Once we got to the check out. I finally gave him my list and a pen to draw. Well, T wanted it-after a few minutes and a page full of scribbles, I told C that we needed to share and gave it to T for a moment! C cried so loud and hard they probably heard him in Mexico.....I mean that kid has a set of lungs!!
I have been trying to work on sharing with him a lot. He is so rotten that if any one takes ANYTHING away from him he just throws a hostile head coming out!!! So I leaned down to his sweet blue eyes filled with tears running down his red cheeks and mixed with mucus from the nose.....I won't go there. I gently put my hand on his leg and said " If you don't hush right now- I will spank you!" HE got LOUDER???
I was thinking kid if you know what is in your best interest you will hush it up NOW!!! So, I picked him up out of the buggy- Swatted his little thunder thigh. Well, as you can imagine- made it 10 times worse. I so was NOT gonna give in. As now every one in the store is looking in my direction, as I turn my head trying to ignore there crazy looks.
I was NOT gonna let him win- I don't care where we were!!! The whole time this young grandmother was standing in line behind me- watching this unfold. I was not even looking her way. The cashier was so flustered thought he was gonna start to cry too!
I went back to him told him to stop crying and I would give him the pen & paper back. He did for a moment. So I told T to hand it to him.......T gently passed the notepad & pen to him. C threw it on the floor and got even LOUDER!!!
At this time- I was ready to go put him on a shelf in the store and mark a price on the poor kid's head!! I once again picked him up an spanked him (2nd time if your counting) HE then got even LOUDER- at this time he was like off the charts, and every one's ear drums are ringing!!!
I was getting so frustrated- I just had no choice but to stand and wait until the checker hit total and the sacker put the groceries in the buggy so we could run like the wind!!!
I went over to him again and told him "STOP SCREAMING NOW" in a calm but urgent tone. He then looked at me and said "NO" Dear Lord hold me back...... I picked him up once again and spanked him AGAIN (3rd time) From that point on I just had him on my hip and he screamed.
The cashier at the other check-out commented and said " What is wrong with that baby?" I just rolled my eyes and said- "he won't share and doesn't like to be told no I guess" This is where it gets U-GLAY That sweet grandma who was behind us- had moved to the other line. She then put her ten cents in ...... "You don't teach lessons in public that is for home- when you are in public you just give them what they want to keep them quiet for others!!"
HELLO LADY.....Who died and made you Dr. Phil??????
I just looked at her and starred at her like WOMAN I am gonna spank you if you don't SHUT your MOUTH!!! Luckily this is store is small and the same people have worked there for years and know me by my first name. The cashier said to her " Her baby's are always good when she comes in here- something must be wrong with him!" I think she thought- the same as what my look showed! I just hushed my mouth- not to lose my witness for Christ and left the store.
As soon as we got to the 150 degree car he neve cried again....all the way home!
I was so flustered when I got home I took my key less remote entry for the car and held it out to the back door of the house punched the button and could not figure out why the door was not opening......then started to laugh- You know it is better than crying on times like these. I know they are only little once- and this is just a stage/season of life.
So, now it is your turn- WHAT would you have done?? Did I handle this the right way???
Tell me your advice.


Stacy said...

ha....sounds like u handled it fine...............
would i qualify as a "bad" mom when the old lady in pizza inn looked at my son , ( who was throwing a fit cause he couldn't get anything out of the crappy toy quarter machine)

and then at me and said, "i can take him home with me and teach him the right way to act".........would i be the "bad" mom for saying "okay, if u think u can handle him,, that'd be great!".................from the look she gave me,, i don't think that was the response she

Whitney said...

Right on! I believe you did the right thing! I have bought wooden spoons at walmart and took Mikayla out to the car and spanked her. She of course never did it again. Wyatt on the other hand, like C, it would not have worked. Keep it up! Love Stacy's Comment!

Courtney Goodwin said...

Your so funny. I would have done the same thing...maybe even worse!!! If you let your child think it is ok to act like a animal when your in public then they will!!! I have spanked Leyton all over this town. Well glad to see you got to go on a girls night. We all need that. I about time for mine!!!

Anonymous said...

Hey Mollie I think you did fine. I have let mine scream many a day in the store and not given in. If anyone aks I just say they are not getting their way and tell them sorry for the noise. Thank goodness I am out of that stage with the girls but know I will enter it with my son. I like your blog by the way!